In our efforts today we are giving you help with our Low Self-Esteem and Mindset Tips so that you can improve how you think or feel about yourself.
If you suffer from low self-esteem you might be stuck in some negative mindsets that are affecting the way you think about yourself. Negative mindsets tend to have a lot of “always” or “never” talk, creating a sense of entrapment and hopelessness.
You cannot stay in a negative mindset to change how you feel about yourself. Time to take note and rise above your thoughts that are hindering you from more success.
These Are Low Self-Esteem Mindset Thoughts
Here are some examples of negative mindsets that can lead to low self-esteem:
- “I will never get it right.”
Thinking this way can keep you from trying again, or even trying something for the first time. It makes it only too easy to give up.
- “Nobody understands what this is like.”
When you are lacking in self-esteem, a lot of times you assume that everyone else has it together and you’re the odd man or woman out. You may feel isolated and feel as if others have their lives together while you are still floundering.
- “I am totally useless.”
When you don’t feel good about yourself, you may feel like you don’t have anything of value to contribute, whether it’s to your workplace, relationships, or something else.
- “I am a complete failure.”
No one fails at every single thing; but to a person with low self-confidence, it can sure seem that way. You may feel like everything you’ve ever tried has failed, even if this is not true.
- “I could never do that.”
Do you see someone with a successful lifestyle you wish you had? If your evaluation of yourself is low, you may have the above reaction. Instead of being inspired and wanting to create that lifestyle for yourself, you look at that person and get depressed, thinking you could never have what they have.
In order to overcome these destructive mindsets that lead to seeing yourself as a valuable human, it’s necessary to reprogram your thought processes. You will need to pay attention to your negative self-talk and immediately change it to something positive.
For example, instead of “I will never get it right,” you could stop that thought in its tracks and think instead, “I have trouble with this, but if I keep trying and seek out the right help, I know I can succeed.” Rather than, “I could never do that,” think, “I would love to do that! There’s no reason why I can’t have that lifestyle if I work at it.”
You may need therapy and/or counseling to overcome these mindsets. But like everything else in life, you can do it if you set realistic goals and learn to see that you have value within.
In This Post on Self-Esteem and Mindset Tips, We Offer You Help To Overcome Feeling Insufficient
It may seem normal in some situations to feel insufficient, shy, or awkward. Don’t we all have a little nervousness before we go talk to that guy or girl, or get sweaty palms before giving a speech?
For some, though, the shyness or social awkwardness may not be circumstantial, but constant. This can be very frustrating and hard to overcome, and often is caused by lower self-esteem.
However, there are some things you can do to help overcome your shyness and approach people in social situations. Here are some tips:
- Learn to Laugh
There’s something about laughter that makes everyone feel more comfortable. This is why “ice breaker” activities at parties are often designed to get the participants laughing. So don’t be afraid to laugh at someone’s jokes, or learn a few funny lines yourself (not canned “pick-up” lines, but clever observations or comments).
- Force Yourself to Stay
Sometimes, shy people feel so uncomfortable in a social situation that they just want it to end; they just want to get away. Consciously resist this impulse. Tell yourself to stand your ground, stay put, and interact. Remember, the other person is not going to breathe fire; he or she just wants to have a conversation and get to know you.
- Learn to be Comfortable with Silence
When you are uncomfortable with yourself and feel especially awkward learn that silence is okay. This may trigger shy people to “babble” to fill the silence, which then makes them feel even more awkward because they feel like what they’re saying is silly or nonsensical. So be cool – some silence between people is okay. In fact, it helps give the other person a chance to think before he or she speaks. The person you’re speaking with will appreciate this!
- Stretch Yourself To Become More Social
Just like physical stretching, socially and psychologically stretching can be somewhat uncomfortable, even painful. But also like physical stretching, it’s necessary. If your first instinct is to say “No” when someone asks you to do something, stop and think first. Tell the person you will get back to him or her if you aren’t sure. This will give you some time to pluck up your courage and say “Yes.”
When to Seek a Professional
In our studies for Low Self-Esteem and Mindset Tips, we must include the following observation:
There is a point when simple shyness and social awkwardness may be an actual disorder. Social anxiety disorder and social phobia are real disorders that may need the help of a professional. The difference between shyness and these disorders is how much it affects your life.
For example, if you are so shy and embarrassed by just the thought of having to introduce yourself to others or attend a party that you go to great lengths to avoid the situation, it might be a social disorder. When it’s social anxiety or phobia, you have trouble living a normal and productive life due to your social fears.
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Robyn Kinney, Author
You may also want to read WebMD- by Dr. Dan Brennan, MD reference for Signs of Low Self-Esteem here