These 10 Signs You Lack Self-Confidence are areas of your life that can be improved, boosted, and overcome…
People who have low self-confidence often display obvious signs that are unmistakable. This lack of self-esteem colors every aspect of their lives and even if they put on a show for others – deep down they’re usually dissatisfied and unhappy.
Their self-value is limited and they do not want to associate or become close to those who present themselves as being self-confident, self-secure, or adequate.
For one to feel complete and have happiness there must be a feeling of self-worth, self-confidence, and the feeling of self-accomplishments.
- They Feel Out of Control and Sometimes Turn Negative
This person feels out of control in most of their life circumstances. They may feel that regardless of their knowledge nothing is going to turn out just right. They feel no matter what they know or how they have educated themselves, someone else will outperform them.
- Saying Yes To Everything
At the other end of the spectrum are people who are eager to please just so that everyone likes them. They’ll take on their colleagues’ workload even if they’re already stressed out with their own projects.
They find it hard to say no even if they’re not agreeable to whatever is being presented to them. They don’t want to disappoint others even if it means discomfort to themselves.
- Have A Problem With Asking For Needs
It is often hard for this person to ask for something they may need due to the fact they feel undeserving. To ask for something makes them feel even more inadequate and self-conscious.
- Has A Problem With Receiving Compliments or Positive Feedback
This person feels that compliments are without due process because they feel inadequate and without capabilities. In other words, they do not hold themselves of sufficient positive to be thought of as being adequate.
People with low self-esteem will make excuses when someone praises them rather than just saying “Thank you!”. They feel embarrassed at being given credit because they don’t feel like they deserve it.
On the other hand, if you give them constructive criticism, they’ll take it poorly too and believe that you’re putting them down. So, they can neither take positive nor negative feedback.
- Focus On Weaknesses Instead of Strengths
Sees the weakness rather than strengths in themselves while being self-conscious of everything they try to accomplish. It is hard for them to see their own strengths and abilities.
- Failure Mentality
One who lacks self-confidence will attribute any success that comes his/her way to luck. They just don’t believe that they’re capable of winning.
They fear failure and detest taking risks. Often, they have a ‘woe is me attitude and will not think twice about quitting the moment things get challenging.
- Problems Seen Where There Are None
People with low self-confidence see problems where there are none. They tend to sweat the small stuff and get easily offended by anything and everything. They want to fix what doesn’t need to be fixed, and it would often makes the situation worse.
- Their Demeanor Is Very Quite And Feel Inadequate To Asset Themselves
They are quiet when in and around other people. For instance, in meetings at work, they do not voice what they know as they are afraid it will not meet the minimum standards of the group. They wait to be asked and then are still shy about answering.
- Fear of Failure
They are afraid of failure so many times, that their actions are less than adequate. In other words, they procrastinate. Nothing gets done and then there are periods of wondering why they always fail when actually it is due to never starting the process, to begin with.
- Poor posture
This is so obvious that anyone will be able to see it. Someone who lacks self-confidence usually looks at the ground when they walk. Their shoulders are hunched and they tend to move around quietly or even furtively.
It’s almost like they’re a shadow – that hovers from point to point hoping that others don’t take notice.
Additional Reading about Low Self Confidence
In these 10 Signs You Lack Self-Confidence we admit the following:
These days, this attitude is very prevalent among younger people who are not being challenged enough in schools and often in their family environment. Giving everyone a participation trophy has removed their desire to fight for success.
As a result, self-confidence never gets built and some grow up feeling entitled and need a safe space the moment something ‘hurts’ their feelings. Others have never been told they are good enough to try to become whatever their desires may be.
Very often, the issue is so trivial it’s almost comical in some cases. Yet, the person with low self-esteem may feel that they are being victimized. While others may feel, they are a lost cause due to anyone ever telling them they are worthy.
These are only some of the signs of low self-confidence. The good news is that one can always develop confidence gradually. You’ll just have to be proactive about it and do the work.
We will continue our talk about how to promote your self-confidence next post.
Quote To Make You Smile
“Low self-esteem is like driving through life with your handbrake on.” – Maxwell Maltz
“You must love yourself, your hard work, because if you do, it will help you get to your next goal.”
“No one can whistle a symphony, it takes an orchestra to play it.” Halford F. Luccock
“There is nothing wrong in believing in yourself, you must.”