Common Self-Love Obstacles People Face

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Common Self-Love Obstacles People Face

Common Self-Love Obstacles People Face-this is not unique to just one person…there is always room for growth to view ourselves in a loving manner.

What is self-love? Self-love is understanding yourself, and knowing you have value, and worth, and you are aware of your own needs for living a good life. You have a positive outlook on your life accomplishments.

It is about implementing more happiness, self-esteem, self-awareness, and self-forgiveness. It is definitely about a healthy lifestyle.

Are you in need of more self-love?

Are you in need of more self-love? If so, here are some things that may help you start to recognize why you feel the way you do about yourself. Many times people do not even realize they are defeating their own way into a path of overflowing self-confidence, and love. You must be mindful of your own needs in order to live a great, and fulfilled life.

When you are trying to practice self-love, you’re going to run into a few obstacles along the way. These can really derail your progress if you aren’t prepared. By being aware of the common obstacles, you can take steps to prevent them.

So, let’s look at some of the most common obstacles people face when trying to practice more self-love.

Common Obstacles:

• You aren’t surrounded by positive, healthy relationships

A major obstacle to self-love is toxic people, I hate to relate to some relationships in this manner, but they do exist. If you are surrounded by people who drain your energy and have a negative outlook, you’re going to struggle to practice self-love.

Many humans are full of dislike for themselves and do not relate well to those who are trying to improve themselves relationship-wise. 


Surround yourself with positive, healthy relationships. While all relationships go through hard times, for the most part, they should lift you up and make you feel positive about yourself.

So, if you have relationships that cause you more misery than happiness, now is the time to start taking a step back and focusing on healthier, happier relationships. After all, you’ll struggle to love yourself if you are surrounded by people who make you feel bad.

If these are family related you must set your boundaries. Simply say that you cannot be bombarded with negative actions, reactions, or actions that cause you to spend time feeling less than capable of having good family relations.

• Feelings of guilt and selfishness

Another big barrier to practicing self-love is feelings of guilt and selfishness. It is common to feel like self-love is selfish. This can lead to feelings of guilt when you attempt to focus more on yourself.

When you feel selfish, you are endangering your own mentality which will then cause you to disregard your own needs over another.

• Solution

You need to understand the importance of self-love. As we have stated before; “you have to love and appreciate yourself,” or no one else will. This is not being arrogant; this is about valuing how you believe in your own worth. Every human has worth. God does not make mistakes. 

It isn’t just a luxury, it’s a necessity for your health and well-being. It certainly isn’t selfish so you absolutely shouldn’t feel guilty for trying to love yourself more.

• Needing to be perfect

Perfectionism is a major obstacle to self-love. While a little perfectionism can be a good thing, especially in business, it can also lead to disappointment, frustration, and unhappiness. It can also lead a person who needs perfection in every aspect of life into never accomplishing much. Why? They are too deadset on perfection and most endeavors are absent of perfection in some small way.

You know that sometimes individuals that are driven by perfectionism are due to feelings of failure. Many perfectionists are battling no self-worth, no self-confidence, and a lack of inner support.

• Solution

When you feel like everything must be perfect, you aren’t going to be happy when you fall short. The human race falls short at some time. It is life, and if you wait to start something you have always wanted to do, you will never accomplish what you have the ability within you to do.

So, try and let go of your need to be perfect. Understand what draws your perfectionism and identify your triggers. Remember, nobody is perfect, not even you!

• Not understanding how to love yourself

Many people are not understanding how to love themselves, and they do not fully understand what self-love means. They mistakenly think it is about doing things you want to do for your own satisfaction, rather than what you need to do.

Self-love isn’t just about treating yourself; it is about making sure you are fulfilling your needs to survive in a world of obstacles.

• Solution

Take the time you fully understand what we have described as self-love. You must be confident, feel secure, live with an understanding of yourself, and not feel guilty about learning to appreciate what you have within you.


These are just some of the common obstacles to self-love you should be aware of. By being aware, you will be able to figure out how to overcome them if they do arise.

Finding people, you trust and who build you up is a big part of being able to practice self-love. However, don’t forget to be your own personal cheerleader too.

Highlight: As always these solutions are suggestions that we have gathered to help you help yourself. However, there are times when you may need a mentor, counselor, and professional help. We do not intend for your to take this as the only step that you personally may need. Consult your health provider if you cannot handle this yourself. 

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