What Older Women Have Learned With Age – is usually what would be essential at an early age to live a better life...post updated 12-09-23
One of the most important advantages of being older is that knowing one does not have as much to learn as before. Some of the life lessons are tough. Many were uncalled for, and some were just part of life. What older women learn with age, at least most of it, they will usually tell you they would not want to do it over, even if it were possible.
That does not say there are never regrets, but the only way to have fewer regrets later in life is to learn when you are young. Gaining knowledge from mistakes makes one wiser going forward.
What I Can Acknowledge
I cannot begin to list all of the life lessons I have learned from a life well lived especially in my 30s and 40s. However, how we end up in life is often, how we started out.
My start in life was in a small country town where you had to travel to everything, including buying clothes, or should I say; mom, ordering them from Alden’s.
In school, I was not an enterprising person. I was a dreamer, or thinking about other things that did not include my education. At first, but finally, in the last few years of high school, I changed.
Later, rather than sooner, I became the little sister that had a lot of adventure, self-will, determination, and maybe something called guts. I move to the city, came back home, and then moved to the city again. Yes, this time with this man, I still call my husband. He was very patient. Thank God.
Finally, after some years, I made the right move and began my career in mortgage lending which lasted until semi-retirement. Ups and down existed but the payoff was good. Did I handle all of it well? Not always, as I was sometimes foolish, but I did always rise after the fall, usually.
One friend told me, “Linda, you always land on your feet.” Well, that was not always true, but I cannot complain…I survived.
What We Are Taught In Our Youth
Perfection was something that I thought was real. I think I thought that because my mother wanted me to be perfect, I would be. She was teaching me the principles of salvation, faith, and being a good person. Was I, well who is perfect that is human? However, I thought I would be perfect.
I was devastated the first time I found out that someone did not like me. The latter was not in my teens as I was much older. I had a lot to learn about life and learned one step, one wrong idea at a time.
What Older Women Learn With Age
Most of what older women learn with age are derived from how and what they learned before their adult life. Yes, that means how parents informed most about life, and what it entails. One’s heritage takes them on a special trip and defines who they are, or who one thought one needed to be. It is often late that individuals change their ideas, and ideals, and learn what life is actually about. What is learned is often nothing like what we learned while growing up.
What Women Learn and Embrace
Older women have been tested a time or two about principles. Older women could and should be able to enlighten those younger. Most of the time the principles that were learned from mom and dad are something that should never be sacrificed.
1. Principles:
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- A fundamental truth, or proposition that serves as the foundation for a system of belief, behavior, or a chain of reasoning. A fundamental source or basis of something.
2. The grass is not greener on the other side, just because one thinks it is, or even because someone says, it is. Note: I changed jobs a few times and learned this specifically.
3. Knowledge and Wisdom
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- Knowledge is the acquisition of facts and information. It is what you have learned in the way of intelligence.
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- Wisdom is the ability to perceive, detect, recognize, observe, and judge what is true, and right.
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- In other words, knowledge without wisdom means that you might get lost on your road to success, happiness, and a satisfying life.
“Knowledge is essential and powerful, but wisdom knows how to share that knowledge to create something worthwhile.”
4. No one can be perfect or flawless, but one should be mindful of the need to change.
5. Women have learned that being first in anything does not mean she is the best. The old saying; “we are saving the best for last,” is more like the truth.
6. With age, it is also learned that you cannot sit on both sides of the fence. You cannot be right and wrong at the same time. Sitting on the fence alters the truth.
7. When a woman becomes more knowledgeable, she knows that her decisions are the creator of the good and not-so-good in her life.
8. Age convinced most that nothing in life is forever. No one stays young, always energetic, and that age does have its benefits. A successful woman knows you can never judge a book by its cover.
9. She learned that you cannot give your values to your children, it is something they must have respect for themselves, and
10. You cannot have your cake and eat it too…
“Life is like the rainbow. It comes and goes, when it rains it pours, but soon the sun shines again. After the storm, there is calm, after the night, there is a morning, and after an ending, there is always a new beginning.”
Some advice from older women @ “60 And Me” Here
