To Be Successful-Change Your Limited Beliefs updated 10-18-2023
Just for the record, you do not have to be one of the most successful women like Oprah, or Arianna Huffington to reach your ideal goals and success. You must get rid of your limited beliefs that are stopping your success and goals.
Question: Are Your Limited Beliefs Stopping Your Success and Goals? –Just something for you to think about.
You Must Start by Believing In Yourself and Your Abilities
It is not profitable for anyone to dream about being “like” another, this is something you know. You do not want their success or dreams and could not have them even if you tried. You know that also. So, just so we are clear and honest; you do not want to be like Oprah or Arianna. Maybe something similar would be acceptable, but not exactly. Right?
Neither do I, and we all know you can’t copy another soul. We must build our own success, and reap the benefit of being just who we are with our own unique characteristics, ideals, qualities, and knowledge.
These powerful influencers deserve all of the praise and prestige they receive, as they have worked hard to obtain. However, both had their own beginnings, and I am sure there were times when they may have had limited beliefs and had to change their thoughts.
What Are Limited Beliefs
Everyone has conscious or subconscious ideas that can become limiting beliefs. These limiting beliefs, cause us to have limited action. They stop us from achieving our goals, and our success, if we let them. Sometimes these beliefs are instilled in us in childhood and sometimes we create them ourselves.
Definitions of Limiting Beliefs: Limiting beliefs are thoughts or states of mind that we believe to be true and that hold us back from achieving our goals or realizing our full potential 123. These beliefs can be about ourselves, others, or the world around us. They are often negative and self-defeating and can lead to feelings of anxiety, depression, and low self-esteem 1.
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Examples of limiting beliefs include:
- “I’m not good enough”
- “I don’t deserve to be happy”
- “I’m too old to start something new”
- “I’m not smart enough to do that”
Identifying and overcoming limiting beliefs is an important step in personal growth and development.
Strategies To Help You Overcome
Here are some strategies that can help you overcome your limiting beliefs:
- Challenge your beliefs: Ask yourself if your beliefs are really true. Are they based on facts or assumptions? Are they helping you or holding you back?
- Replace negative thoughts with positive ones: Instead of focusing on what you can’t do, focus on what you can do. Replace negative self-talk with positive affirmations.
- Take action: Take small steps towards your goals, even if they scare you. The more you take action, the more confident you will become.
- Surround yourself with positive people: Surround yourself with people who support and encourage you. Avoid people who bring you down or reinforce your limiting beliefs.
Remember, overcoming limiting beliefs is a process that takes time and effort. Be patient with yourself and celebrate your progress along the way!
Additional Examples of Limiting Beliefs
An example of a limiting belief that can get in your way of success is how you see yourself in any facet of life. For instance, you grew up in an atmosphere where money was limited.
If you believe you will always struggle to make sufficient income, and always be poor, chances are you will set yourself up for failure. Your limiting belief that you are poor and that you always will be poor becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy.
The same can be said about anything you feel is negative in your life that limits you. Whether it’s a career, education, or an idea of insufficient charm. If you see yourself a certain way, it can be hard to change that view and let go of that limiting belief. However, charm and beauty do not qualify anyone for a successful life. Just being honest.
These Are Eight Additional Telling Phrases That Point To A Limiting Belief
1. “It’s hopeless” Hope means the following: aspiration, desire, ambition, aim, plan. So if you are hopeless, it means you are lacking in those same words. If you are not inspired, do not desire, and have no ambition- it’s time to know why not. These are excuses and your intellect is lying dormant.
You must be inspired and desire to change what is negative from within. You must have a desire to change your thoughts I believe in myself and my abilities.
Anytime you use the word “never” it is a clue that you are focusing on a limiting belief. There are more ways than one to accomplish your goals.
2. “I’m helpless” – When most people feel uneducated or helpless, they blame their circumstances instead of working to change them. “I can’t manage my money because I don’t know how” sounds insightful, but the part that’s missing is the feeling of helplessness when all you need to do is take a personal finance course or buy, read, and practice the lessons in “Personal Finances for Dummies”.
3. “It’s useless” – The idea that nothing you do will make a difference is that you believe that any action you take will not make a difference. “It doesn’t matter if I work out an hour a day, I won’t lose weight anyway.” How do you know? Have you tried to do anything for longer than a couple of weeks?
4. “It’s the universe” – Sometimes a limiting belief has to do with the idea that outside forces that you cannot control are at work keeping you down. You can’t find a better job or get clients because the economy sucks, and where you live is depressed.
You don’t have the right wardrobe, and your car is too old, and you are ashamed to drive it. However, first things first, these issues are not the right issues, or shall we call them excuses. Secondly, you do nothing to change anything because it’s destiny. “Everything happens for a reason” type of thinking can be very limiting and make you feel powerless.
5. “I’m worthless” – The idea that you’re not smart enough or good enough to do what you want can be a very strong limiting belief system and seems to affect women more than men. You feel you are not enough, pretty enough, smart enough, or good enough to have something, so you do not take the steps to achieve it. Possibly, because you do not feel that you deserve it.
6. “It’s genetic” – While there are certainly some instances where genetics plays a huge role in a person’s life, the truth is that almost everything that is genetic can be fixed with the right mindset, training, exercise, and outlook. You are not stuck with your genetics, but if you think you are, you may not try any of the things to pull yourself out of the rut you are stuck in.
7. “I’ll fail” – The truth is the fear of failure is something almost all people have at some point. “I’m a bad public speaker so if I do it, I’ll be judged, and I’ll fail anyway so why try?” This is a common refrain. But, how can you set that belief in stone if you’ve not tried?
8. “I’m different” – The limiting belief about being different is that different is not necessarily bad. You do not want to be who you are because you are different and other people will look at you as different. You are afraid to be who you are. Is that correct? Because of that, you don’t even know who you are. With that said, you’re too scared to find out due to fear of rejection and ending up alone.
If you ever hear any of these phrases go through your head, try to disconnect from them, and turn them around to “why not me” instead of “why me.” Always ask “Why not me?” Simply because the truth is, you are not feeling anything different from anyone else who has made goals and achieved them. The difference is in the doing, not the intelligence or talent.
Your success and your goals cannot be articulated by what another has accomplished. You have the final say in your life. You can achieve what the mind can believe and what your whole self can work hard to make a reality.
Come on now and Just Do It,
Linda
