How to Change Your Life by Knowing Who You Are
Giving some thought to knowing who you are, and that you may need to make changes that will give you more authority in life to influence others through your actions…
“A man should never be ashamed to own he has been in the wrong, which is but saying, in other words, that he is wiser today than he was yesterday.” -Alexander Pope
• Do you have the ability to accept the things you can change and the things you cannot change?
• Can you accept that other people are opting to change themselves, rather than you changing them?
• Do you accept that you being who you are, doesn’t necessarily make you perfect?
• Can you accept that you may need to make some changes in your life?
If you answered yes to one or all of these questions then you are off to the start of improving your personal life. If you are willing to accept that you may have some flaws, and need to work on your responses, actions, or reactions; you are on the right track.
An example is: If someone pushed you in the hall at work or elsewhere, you could stand back and laugh. The push is only a threat to your emotions, which you could see, accept and find a way to gain control of the situation.
Another example is: Someone has criticized your speech and it hurt your feelings. What should you do to deal with the criticism? If it was true; take the hint and change what you need to change. That would mean that you are up to date with corrective criticism. You are smart and emotionally intelligent. If it was not true-ignore it and keep moving higher.
When you can change what needs to be changed about yourself, you are taking responsible control and improvement for your life. When you are in control, it helps you to see how you can improve to become a better human. When you realize that being able to change is the good part of life; you will learn to discover yourself.
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Knowing One’s Self
In our efforts to explain how to change your life by knowing who you are: Knowing one’s self is more important than trying so desperately to change someone else. It is by far more important to one’s personal growth to first learn what you might be doing that is causing you to judge others.
When you look within, you stop looking at others and trying to change them. Yes, it takes honesty, self-reflection, and self-awareness. What are your inconsistencies? Do you feel you have no infallibility?
We Can’t Blame Our Actions on Another
It is somewhat human and evident that we want to correct someone else and blame their actions for our problems. Correcting our own behaviors, and habits is beneficial for a healthier lifestyle, like (going to bed early enough at night to get the adequate rest we need). Creating habits that are profitable for healthy living, productive work or clearer thinking can be considered a positive change. It is not all about character flaws. although they do exist.
We Can’t Fool Other People, but we most certainly CAN fool ourselves
Why? We want to see the good in ourselves and deny there is anything wrong with how we are living. Humans will be humans, but becoming strong individuals and learning to live our lives better, is realizing that we must look within first to change those things which are giving us problems, and then we will not see so much fault in others.
Sometimes we try to play the scene that every action that we make is because another person did something terribly wrong. We are innocent, we are pushed here because of what someone is doing incorrectly. At work, at home, and in all parts of life, we make excuses because of someone else.
We want to see ourselves as having all the qualities we need in life and we never stop to think, it could be about our own actions. As Mr. Lincoln said; “we can’t fool all the people all the time.” We must try to stop seeing ourselves as flawless. Other people see our flaws, so why can’t we?
Are We Kidding Ourselves-we are responsible for changes within our life to make it better
So in changing, who are we trying to kid? We most certainly should stop trying to kid ourselves that we are living in a dream world and face the reality that life is not life without changes and it must begin in us. When we try to challenge ourselves, we can influence others, and we become more open to changing our habits. We become stronger individuals, and other people may see the change and respond by implementing change within their life.
Life Faith & Truth is a place to be truthful, so we try hard to be who we are.
What About Your Victories?
I am sure you have accomplished many victories. However, did you accomplish the victories all by yourself? Did you achieve dignity, integrity, and respect for others? No one can get through life “successfully” by not taking responsibility for the failures and taking credit for only the victories.
Most of the time, we have help with victories. We can certainly accomplish more with another’s wisdom and help than we can alone. Is there a need in your life for changing how you view your successes?
Love this, or hate it, it is true…
“If you could kick the person in the pants responsible for most of your troubles, you wouldn’t sit for a month.” Author Unknown
“All blame is a waste of time. No matter how much fault you find with another, and regardless of how much you blame him, it will not change you.” – Wayne Dyer
Trying To Be Positive Is Productive- failure is part of life
If you feel that you are failing and complain all of the time in your relationships, your role as a parent, or your professional life, something is wrong. Getting back to feeling good about your relationships must come from you and your evaluation of yourself, first.
It is okay to fail, that is how we grow and become better and wiser but we must stop trying to kid ourselves into believing it is everybody else.
Taking responsibility for our actions is the next part, and is part of the challenge for growth. We become a person who is emotionally stable and who can have more victories than defeats. It is in life things -changing ourselves that we find more victories than defeats.
There is not a human on the face of the earth that does not need to grow, personally. It is not conceivable that anyone reaches a state of perfection. Most likely it is a continued race toward a state of conscious living with each of us and we should not kid ourselves that we lack anything that could improve our life.
How Do You Respond To Others-in consciousness we hope…
There is always room for improving how you respond to others in all areas of your life, how you correct your children, how you treat your fellow man, and how you live your lives in consciousness.
It has been said by Psychologist, one, in particular, Dr. Peter Shepherd –
“we do not live our lives in a conscious state on a daily basis.”(we mention this in another post).
We are in the habit of going at life in full force without being aware of how we are acting, reacting, not acting, being foolish, being unproductive and just getting through it with as little disturbance as possible.
Why do we live this way? Life is so full of life things, that we become unaware of which way we are headed. No, it is not that we intend for our lives to be this way.
We should stop long enough to realize that life can be lived more proficiently. Meaning, we can learn to grasp the little moments, that are special, and productive, and award us more happiness in the end.
We are busy, too busy…
Summary-How to Change Your Life by Knowing Who You Are First…
All souls should still find the time to live more thoughtfully, more consciously, and with greater concern. Concern for what we might be missing by not living more in the moment, and looking within us to see what may need changing.
We should start getting the most out of life and stop long enough to take a breath for ourselves, give our loved ones the love they need and spend more time with family and friends.
Stop kidding yourself that you cannot change, and take the time to look around for what may need changing. Find your own true self to become the person you are meant to be, live the life you are meant to live, and think, “Am I whole?”
Shouldn’t we all do that? Sure, we should. Living life without consciousness brings all of the unwanted, unnecessary, and unrewarding things into our life without even inviting them. We do invite these types of habits, and behaviors when we are not seeking improvement and necessary change within our own lives to live more abundantly.
Just for the sake of saying this: You are beautiful, successful, and a good person. However, most of us have to pray every day so that our emotions do not overreact and to refrain from lashing out at the person who screamed at us, acted ugly, or like they knew more than us!!!