A Calm Soul Makes Hard Times Conquerable- experience is a great teacher…

Update 09-28-24

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Today is five years and nine months since the loss of our son. I still try to stay calm when the hurt reappears. His photos are on my desk, in my living room on the hearth, on walls, and everywhere. He is still in our thoughts and hearts. I tell him I love him and miss him and yes I still feel the tears of sorrow. What might have been or could have been we will never know. At times I still whisper, “God, bless my son.”

No one on earth can help you calm your soul when you hear certain words about someone you love. The words in our vocabulary that strike us the worst are the words that pertain to loss.

We usually can deal with most words as long as it does not threaten our loved ones’ lives or our own. Within this post of REAL Life, I want to emphasize that yes, a calm soul makes hard times conquerable, but this mother is not there yet. This post is for me and anyone else who needs it.

My Expression of How Real Life Can Be Hard To Conquer

With our latest and most tense, severe, overwhelming, and horrible news that our son, our only child had cancer has gone over and beyond any words, I have ever heard.

There are just some words that you cannot seem to make any sense of or feel that you can ever accept, much less understand, and two of those awful words are cancer and death.

When I think I am calm, something hits, and I realize, there is no calm, and there may not be for me, his mother ever again. The unknown, the depth, the lack of control, the timing, and the lack of understanding seem impossible.

When something feels impossible like the words that usually mean death, such as cancer; trying to understand is like reaching for the stars. There is no understanding, and there is no cure, other than a miracle from God.

I cannot say that I will be able to conquer or accept the inevitable unless Jesus does let me touch the hem of his garment like the scripture in Matthew 14:33 – 36 (KJV)

“Then they that were in the ship came and worshiped him, saying, of a truth thou art the Son of God. 34. And when they were gone over, they came into the land of Gennesaret. 35. And when the men of that place had knowledge of him, they sent out into all that country round about, and brought unto him all that were diseased; And besought him that they might only touch the hem of his garment: and as many as touched were made perfectly whole.”

Even though I am a Christian, and with all of my heart believe in the Lord, Jesus Christ, I have times of wondering why this has to happen. I have moments when I can think about other things. However, suddenly I can feel this heaviness within my chest; I breathe hard and feel that my breath is being taken from me.

Is it possible to remain calm in the face of death unless God intervenes? If loving another human would be enough and God would let me, I would trade places with him.

There is only one thing wrong with that. If God permitted the above…..I could not live the rest of his life for him and only God knows the future. A very hard, and tough statement, but it is true.

Affirmations, Thoughts, and Expressions To Help Calm A Sad and Troubled Soul

Difficulties give me an opportunity to exercise my focus and determination. During trying times, I concentrate on maintaining a calm soul. This approach helps me to conquer the challenges that face me.

I avoid being reactive to difficult situations that catch me off guard. While it is easy to allow confrontation to anger me, I choose to take the higher road.

I spend a lot of time nurturing my mind and spirit. I train myself to keep calm when that is the least natural approach. It forces me to develop the will to overcome the toughest situations.

When I encounter resistance, my first step is to silence my soul. I ignore the stirrings of impatience and anger that pull at me. I block them out completely.

I realize that giving in to negativity only serves to worsen any situation. My focus is on overcoming the challenge at hand by counteracting negativity with positivity and peace.

My plan for handling trying times encourages me to act from a place of calm reasoning. When my soul is calm, I can think things through. By rejecting unease at my core, I can make smart choices that produce finer results.

*Affirmation**: Today, I am a conqueror.*

I can overcome any obstacle; I can seek a calm soul that makes trying time conquerable.

With serenity, I can see the value in all my life experiences. Even obstacles become lessons to learn from and meaningful when seen in this light.

Self-Reflection Questions:

What exercises can I undertake to help me develop a consistently calm soul?

Reading God’s comforting words from the Bible.
Keeping a prayer within my heart not only for my family, and for myself, but also, for those, I do not even know.
Repeating the Lord’s Prayer as this is the prayer that Jesus gave us for an example.
Repeating to myself that all things are possible through Jesus Christ; according to his will.
Remember to be thankful regardless of what is in the moment.

No one has ever suffered anything that someone, somewhere has not suffered before. One must remember that as hard as some things in life are, there is a season for all things.

A Calm Soul Makes Hard Times Conquerable