How to Be Happy-15 Steps For More Happiness…let’s get started…post updated 5-17-23
Hey people, meaning everyone…I just had a great explanation that hit my mind for some steps toward more happiness. Therefore, it is time to share it, before it gets cold. Okay, here we go with how to be happy – 15 steps for more happiness.
It seems that every day someone is searching for how to be happy. We all want more of the good life, more love, more fulfillment, and more happiness.
One important reason that we are not more fulfilled and happy is that we stay too busy, too occupied, too worried, and too depressed with life things. We need to sit back, relax, and enjoy our life without so much fuss.
What are the most important aspects of someone who is continually celebrating more happiness and appears to be joyful all of the time?
- They do not let the small stuff get to them. In other words, “this too shall pass.”
- There was a national study of happy people, which said that 60% of the happy people said they had at least five friends, and/or close relationships to share the important stuff.
- They are comfortable with themselves. Not arrogant, but comfortable, meaning they are secure within themselves, yet they have humility.
- They have compassion for others and do not feel another person is a threat.
- They stay busy but know how to avoid being too busy.
- They have learned how to manage stress and temperament.
- They are positive thinking, instead of pessimistic.
- Kindness- have you ever seen an unhappy person who showed kindness? I rather doubt it. Usually, they are grumpy.
- Happy people take responsibility for their actions and do not make excuses.
- As in number 3 above, they do not compare themselves with others, they are confident in their own skin and ability. They like themselves.
- They forgive and do not hold grudges. The latter will drive you bananas, and it is hurting no one but the individual who is holding on to what should be forgotten.
- They have a strong tolerance to pain, not physical pain. When life gets bad, they know that at the end of the storm, there is always a rainbow.
- They are real and truthful to themselves and others. No faking it; what you see is what you get, genuine and real.
- They are quick to listen and slow to speak.
- They have some kind of spirituality, and faith, and believe that all things are possible when you give life your best.
Happiness Comparisons
Happiness can be compared to childbirth in some ways. The mother goes into labor, she endures excruciating pain and often for many hours. Once it is over, it is over and when that child is in her arms, the pain is gone forever. The happiness overrides any thought of the latter.
This is what Abraham Lincoln said:
“Folks are usually about as happy as they make their minds up to be.”
“Money cannot buy happiness; it can make life better, but it cannot give you soul satisfaction. Anything or anyone that can make you smile is when that inner soul is happy.”
“When you let the struggles of life become the only thing in your life, there is no way for happiness to exist therein. You must begin each day being thankful that your life is so much better than so many other hungry, sad, and desperate humans in the world.”
“Happiness comes within, how you perceive the goodness that exists, even when there is pain.”
Gratitude Brings Happiness
Yes, it might feel great to win the lottery. Money, houses, travel – these are wonderful, but not enough by themselves. You need the right frame of mind to fully enjoy life. You need an attitude of gratitude.
Life is better when you feel blessed and when you can look around and say “Thank you, God.” Religious or not, when you see life as a wonderful gift, your experience is a richer one than any amount of money can provide. Imagine going through life like you are a child, and every morning is Christmas.
It is tempting to think gratitude comes from having what you want. You see yourself giving thanks if you had money, a loving family, and maybe a house on the beach. Still, you know there are ungrateful, unhappy people with these things, and poor people full of gratitude for what little they have. Where does this feeling come from?
Creating Gratitude Will Create More Happiness
Gratitude arises from how you look at things. It is the natural feeling that comes from truly appreciating the people and things in your life. It is also something you can learn.
First, you have to stop and smell the roses. You can’t be thankful for something you don’t notice or enjoy. Roses really do smell great, by the way, right?
Then, you need to make this appreciative approach to roses and life a habit. There is no need to ignore the ugliness in the world, but you have to habitually see the beautiful things. That is what enables happiness to shine forth within your life.
Start writing down every positive thing that happens to you, and all the things you like. Do these until you start automatically seeing the good things in life. If you have ever bought a white car and started seeing white cars all over, you know how awareness can alter your perception of reality. To see wonderful things all over, train yourself to look for them.
When you are in the habit of “counting your blessings,” gratitude and a much richer experience of life are the natural results.
