The Energy of Love In Our Relationships Brings Contentment…
All of the great scholars indicate that Love is Energy. It sparks the racing of the heart, the adrenaline flows like a river, and it gives those who possess it, a great sense of personal accomplishment. They feel exuberant, filled with a glow of great satisfaction with themselves and others. It just feels so good to be in love.
When The Love Energy Gets Too Low
However, love is a strange thing. When it is the right love, it can be so beautiful. It can conquer many things in life, and it can lead to a productive life however, it can sometimes hurt like crazy.
For many individuals, it is very hard to express their love. Often it is the case of a childhood where there was not an example of a kind love. If there was an example, it was rough/tough/playful love.
And, Then There Is…
You love each other but cannot manage to communicate without arguing, fighting, and ending up exhausted. Each one is in his or her corner, trying to lick their wounds and thinking of how to protect oneself against a new attack. In addition, even though you love each other? How is this possible? Why do people hurt those they love?
Why can’t they express our love? Why are they full of good intentions yet when it comes to the reality they find themselves again shouting and blaming the other one? Then that monster of guilt jumps out of nowhere to their throat to strangle them once again.
How does anyone stop this kind of behavior?
Why Does This Kind Of Behavior Happen
The human race- all needs energy. They need the energy to live and to survive with stride. Energy comes in many forms, love, attention, interest, food, friendship, money, approval, and recognition.
Every soul needs this to feel good, build their personality, and find their place in society.
However, here it is as long as they think this energy has to come from other human beings, they will be caught up in the struggle. This is because human energy is limited. You have to fight for it. Human energy doesn’t last. There isn’t enough of it.
Therefore, you have to be the quickest, the smartest, and the most beautiful one, to attract the attention of the others and to pull their energy. Is that true? If that does not work, another strategy must be attempted. They must try to pull attention from negative behavior.
Children Learn The Energy of Love
Every child learns this very quickly in his early life: when he is playing quietly on the floor with his toys, mom goes on cooking dinner or talking with daddy. But as soon as the kid hurts his little sister or is playing sick, mom hurries to give attention to him.
She shouts; maybe she is angry or worried, but regardless, all this is attention for the child. He or she learns very quickly, which behavior gives him or her the greatest amount of attention and energy. When the mother or father looks at him or her even with anger, it is still energy coming to them. When they shout at him, they give him energy. Negative energy, yes, but it is better than no energy at all.
As the Growing Cycle Changes
When grown-ups start to date, they discover a very interesting phenomenon. When they fall in love, they receive a lot of energy (attention, interest, time, love, etc.) for free. The other person gives freely and abundantly a whole bunch of energy.
They do not even have to ask for it, they do not need to apply any strategy to pick this energy, it is all free! They let go of our mechanism to pull the energy of others towards them.
They loosen up. They fall in love. They almost literally fly. They are high! Everything seems to have more color, is more vivid, and they feel lighter. At the same time, life seems easy, everything goes by itself, they have the feeling they love everybody and everything, even the grouchy boss! Nothing can hurt, they feel safe and boosted with energy. However, this is his or her energy! They are flying on someone else’s energy, and human energy is limited!
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Love Is Energy, and Energy Is Everything
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Everything is hunky-dory because someone is giving them, their energy with all of the trimmings. This stream of free energy begins to slow down; because the other one goes back to his business and activities, he had before. Why? The body is not able to handle this amount of adrenaline for long periods. Nevertheless, the real reason is they need to learn to pull their energy from somewhere else, not from a human being, but from the source of energy itself.
Therefore, the person who loves them gives them less free energy than before. They were used to this energy flow and now they have to do it again by themselves. Free energy is so much easier. They do not have to make an effort to get it! Now they are getting less of this free energy, and they do not want to let this happen.
At this moment, the old childhood system of capturing energy is triggered because of the scarcity of energy. There is an alarm inside that says; danger and they feel a lack of energy.
What Happens When You Feel The Energy Level Drop? You Then See The Behavior To More Attention Arrives
Then the old mechanism to capture energy from others starts running in their heads and in their behavior. The mechanism that worked when they were a child to get the energy of their parents will be triggered by the lack of energy now. They do what they did as a child to get the energy flowing their way.
They can do this by playing the victim:
- (Oh poor me, look at all that I do and nobody is grateful! Look how good I am and still, life strikes me with disapproval, disease, and misery! Oh, oh, oh!).
- Alternatively, they get attention by being aggressive, shouting, and trying to dominate the other one.
- A third mechanism is harassing the other one by asking too many questions and controlling him.
- A fourth system is playing silence, refusing contact, not speaking, and not reacting, so the other one will do whatever he can to get in contact with you again and this will give you his energy.
These systems will of course make the energy of the other one flow their way. Nevertheless, what is next? The other one is now low on energy and wants to get his energy back. So now, his mechanism is triggered by his lack of energy.
He will now use the system that assured him the energy of his parents when he was little, to get his energy back from you. He will either shout at you, either play the poor one that did not deserve your treatment, either torture you with a bunch of questions, or refuse contact.
This Explains Why Love Can Hurt and Why We Hurt The Ones We Love
This explains why we sometimes hurt the ones we love.
- The first reason is we want their energy, the energy they gave once for free. We hurt our loved ones most because they gave us love, energy, and attention free. It started in the beginning and now we have to do it on our own. Now we are angry and want to get back to them. We think we are entitled to have their energy still for free, and start our mechanism to get it.
- The second reason we hurt them most is convenience as they are always around.
- Their energy is available so when we are low on energy we try to rip their energy off and hurt them by doing that.
Stealing Energy From Another Human Being Is Hurting Him or Her
What can we do about this?
The person who is low on this engery level should only be in contact with the other people when they are sure their energy level is high so they do not steal from the other. When they are full of energy, and conscious of what happens between people, they can give the other one energy instead of ripping him off.
They should not be together when each person involved is low on energy. It is the responsibility of each person to generate energy by himself and not to depend on other people.
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How Does One Do That?
By connecting to the energy that is always available to every soul. That is the energy of the Universe.
- The easiest way to connect to this energy is to contemplate the beauty of a flower by looking at beautiful photos on the internet or outside in your garden.
- You also can contemplate the beauty of an object or a person.
- Listen to beautiful music, or take a walk in nature.
- Pray, meditate, dance, paint, read positive texts
- Work on your mission on earth; love your cat or dog, anything that gives you energy.
Make a list of every activity and behavior that increases your energy level. If you feel you are in a conflict with your spouse, boss, child, parent, or whoever, do something to get yourself together and raise your energy. Do not say anything until your energy level is again high enough to be able to send energy to the other one.
By sending energy, you will not steal energy from the other one. This is an act of love. If you are not able to get your energy level any higher, go to another place, do something for yourself and wait until your vibrations are high enough to meet the other one again.
One important thing in a relationship is not to make the other happy or to expect the other person to make you happy. However, to make you happy is key advice, and offer that happiness as a free gift to the other!
Loving another human being is giving him or her energy!
See the difference? Do you want to love your loved ones or steal their energy?
